Asteya: Recognizing and Releasing the Subtle Acts of Taking

The principle of Asteya, or non-stealing, invites us to explore the deeper motivations behind why we might take more than we need. Often, this behavior arises not from a deliberate intention to steal, but from an internal sense of lack—a belief that “I’m not enough” or “I don’t have enough.” This sense of scarcity can manifest in subtle and unintentional ways that impact others, creating a ripple effect of discontentment in our relationships and communities.

The Root of Taking: A Feeling of Lack

When we feel incomplete or inadequate, we instinctively search for something external to fill the void. This “empty sensation” drives desire, greed, and comparison. Instead of turning inward to address the root cause, we look outward at what others have and crave it for ourselves. We might not steal physical possessions, but our actions and behaviors can take from others in ways that are less tangible but equally impactful.

Subtle Forms of Stealing in Daily Life

1. Stealing Time:

Time is one of the most precious resources we all share. When we show up late for an appointment or drag a conversation on without regard for another person’s schedule, we unintentionally rob them of their time. Being mindful of punctuality and respecting others’ boundaries is a way of practicing Asteya.

2. Stealing Attention:

In conversations, we often focus on our own thoughts instead of truly listening. By doing so, we steal someone’s chance to feel heard and valued. Genuine attention is a gift that costs nothing but holds immense power to nurture relationships and mutual understanding.

3. Stealing Energy:

Engaging in gossip, negativity, or constant complaints can drain the emotional energy of those around us. This subtle form of stealing leaves others feeling depleted. Instead, we can strive to bring positivity, encouragement, and solutions to our interactions.

4. Stealing Credit:

At work or in social settings, failing to acknowledge others’ contributions or claiming their ideas as our own can be a form of theft. Recognizing and celebrating the efforts of others fosters trust and harmony rather than resentment.

5. Stealing Opportunities:

Sometimes, we unintentionally block someone’s chance to shine or grow, whether by monopolizing conversations, taking all the credit, or creating unnecessary barriers. Supporting others and sharing opportunities reflects abundance rather than scarcity.

Shifting from Lack to Abundance

Asteya teaches us that the root cause of taking often lies in our perception of insufficiency. By cultivating gratitude and a mindset of abundance, we can shift from craving what others have to appreciating what we already possess. Recognizing that we are enough just as we are is a powerful step toward releasing the need to take more than we need.

A Practice of Mindful Giving

To counteract unintentional stealing, we can actively practice mindful giving. This might look like:

• Giving undivided attention in conversations.

• Respecting others’ time by being punctual and concise.

• Offering genuine praise for someone’s efforts.

• Bringing positive energy to group settings.

• Mentoring or supporting someone’s growth with no expectation of return.

Asteya calls us to live with integrity, honesty, and respect, not only for others but for ourselves. By becoming aware of the subtle ways we take, we can transform those moments into opportunities for giving, creating a world where abundance flows freely and relationships thrive.

What subtle ways might you practice Asteya today? Perhaps it’s a kind word, a listening ear, or simply honoring someone’s time. Every act of mindful giving strengthens the web of connection we share with those around us.